It is not a good idea to get a second opinion "in secret." Ultimately, it is not in your best interest. Second opinion consultations are done by physicians for physicians. They are done to review and help improve your medical care. Consultants cannot really evaluate your case properly unless they have at least the same information your primary doctor has, including the slides, x-rays and results of laboratory tests and other procedures.
Don't think your doctor will take offense or feel hurt. Your doctor should welcome the opportunity to satisfy your need for a second opinion.
